Departures (2009)

Sometimes you don't get to choose what you are good at doing. Sometimes fate gives you a talent or knack and you have to figure out whether you will live into it or in contrast to it.

 I was vaguely aware of this movie when it was released. A Japanese film about a young cellist who has to change his career to be a mortician assistant in the art of preparing the departed for a final farewell from their family and friends.

But my mother has a similar knack to me in serendipitous curiosity and capriciousness, as she picks films that cross her path in her volunteer work at library sales. She watched this film and wanted to see if she could connect with me over it. I was pretty accurate in guessing when the movie has been released, but had missed that it was scored by Joe Hisaishi. Which between my mom's recommendation and the Studio Ghibli composer really interested me.

I finally got time to watch it, and was very affected by its arc. The change in careers was embarrassing for the protagonist, as his orchestra folded just as he secured his dream job, and he has to admit to his young wife that he can't fulfill his proposal's promise to travel the world performing. Instead, he has no job and a deep loan on a professional cello he had invested in faith of his career success. He has a house in his hometown, inherited from his mother who had to covert the business side from a coffee shop to a bar after her husband deserted her when the protagonist was 6.

The protagonist sees an ad in the local newspaper for a good paying job with no experience required, involving "departures." Thinking it has to do with travel, he gets his interview suit ready and shows up to a small office. The office manager summons her elderly boss, the owner of the business, and the owner asks the interviewee if he is willing to work hard for very good pay and hires him on the spot, telling him that the ad was a misprint - it was not "Departures", but "the departed". But he has a good feeling about the kid's ability to do the job, and gives him advance pay.

The rest of the film unfolds slowly, as the character has to reassess whether he is truly suitable for this job. There is a grace and dignity which the owner demonstrates in preparing each of his clients, and there is a draw to seeing a job done well with professionalism and competence. It is beautifully scored, and patient in its shots for the slow reactions of grief and having the honor and responsibility of holding the memories of the friends and family to be reflected in the deceased. Death is a part of life, and it is often something that people shy away from as ingracious, indelicate, and terrifying. This film gives you time to gradually acclimate that there is peace and calm in the unknown, if you are open to learn to handle whatever aspects can be understood and controlled.

This film is cathartic and gives voice to quiet moments where words fall short.